tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post2344929409299873765..comments2024-03-16T16:50:51.684-07:00Comments on Dumped, Drunk and Dalish: Ar Lath Ma, Vhenan: Solas's Romance, Part 4Angela D. Mitchellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11669645527339566514noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-75298151184196435702023-04-01T00:51:21.501-07:002023-04-01T00:51:21.501-07:00Dragon age is is my primary speical interest, and ...Dragon age is is my primary speical interest, and i must yave played inquisition- 20 times. I have never seen the appeal of solas except for that one moment after corypheous and the avalanche. (With the lantern uou know? Im going to have to try the always dark mod) <br /><br />But thank you for introducing me to the magic thst is this man. I know fictional characters dont counr but it almost made me question my sexuality! This writing is a giftRaynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-18346697962492382532023-03-11T01:27:10.305-08:002023-03-11T01:27:10.305-08:00Thanks so much for commenting (and reading)! I abs...Thanks so much for commenting (and reading)! I absolutely agree that in my personal headcanon, it's not even a question that Solas is bisexual. I don't see someone living for thousands of years without sampling both sides of the plate! And given that Solas tends to see the "spirit" of the person first, I think this is further indication that he is more adventurous with his tastes. Besides, anyone who flirts with him knows he's got a wicked little glint in his eye -- he's had his share of adventures, darn it.<br /><br />My understanding is that he was originally bisexual, but that the writers ultimately decided not to go with that to avoid the "evil bisexual" trope. Which I do understand. I suspect that if they made the game now, the outcome might be different, however. Angela D. Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11669645527339566514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-33945699329780687442023-01-24T23:41:32.479-08:002023-01-24T23:41:32.479-08:00I will always cherish the solasmance so so goddamn...I will always cherish the solasmance so so goddamn much despite how much it hurts to watch it unfold, but I totally agree with your post. That being said, a few things I just wanna say bc I can lol. First I actually always romance Solas as a male lavellan for the fact that i'm gay irl (lol) but also because theres a really good chance he was supposed to be bi in the first place, both because theres actually a lot of male vo lines that were recorded for his romance and because for a guy whos been around for thousands of years it really doesnt make sense (imo) that he'd be exclusively straight. Since his and Cullen's romances were the very last two to be added, I feel like some of his potential kinda got cut short. For example, on my hunt for cut content stuff from DAI, there was actually supposed to be a scene during the epilogue where lavellan was with Solas when he met with Mythal. This honestly makes me headcannon that, if you earned solas's trust and maxed out his approval entirely, maybe even had a secret extra thing to gain his full trust, you would be rewarded with him not only telling the full truth at the waterfall, but the early option to side with him and join him post game, which likely would also lead to more intimate scenes since in Trespasser he states that he wouldn't lay with you "under false pretenses" really does feel like a punch in the tooth like "you missed out on the super secret option to discover my identity sooner and therefore are also denied the same intamcy everyone else gets for being 'easy'". That being said, I also enjoy the headcannon of him being on the ace spectrum as well, i just feel that we more or less just got cut from our precious egg potential. But yeah, by far my favorite romance, imo is the best written out despite arguably being the least rewarding but I genuinely refuse to believe that in another world somewhere theres a secret option to join his side through it all. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-68422537830997946642022-02-22T17:31:56.331-08:002022-02-22T17:31:56.331-08:00Kris, thanks for reading -- and your fanfic sounds...Kris, thanks for reading -- and your fanfic sounds wonderful!<br /><br />Yeah, Patrick's comment about Solas's state of mind in that moment is so moving and maddening because they really let us know that the moment is just as difficult and heartbreaking for Solas as we suspected. (Aghghg!)<br /><br />I do talk about that further in my later "Last, Worst Date" post on their romance. Angela D. Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11669645527339566514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-36306987721623885322022-02-22T17:29:56.776-08:002022-02-22T17:29:56.776-08:00Solastminute (I love your name), thank you for the...Solastminute (I love your name), thank you for the great comment!<br /><br />As far as "Getting you into bed is just an enjoyable side benefit," I would note that he can totally say this in the context of "We are about to sleep together," which is what I take from the scene. <br /><br />In which case that comment makes sense -- especially since I feel both of them are very calm and connected as the date begins, both comfortable with each other and (I feel) certain that this is the night they will be together.<br /><br />Until he realizes what he's doing and breaks it off. So to me it still works as "they did not have sex." BUT -- as always -- I get why many many people disagree! :) <br /><br />Meanwhile, thank you so much for the really lovely compliment -- that's such high praise! I hope you'll keep reading. And commenting!Angela D. Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11669645527339566514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-22004778212051625202022-02-22T17:25:42.196-08:002022-02-22T17:25:42.196-08:00Faelys, thank you for this lovely compliment -- I ...Faelys, thank you for this lovely compliment -- I am so glad that you've been enjoying the blog, and that Dragon Age has helped you overcome your PTSD. Dragon Age and its fandom have definitely been a comfort to me as well, in so many ways.<br /><br />It means a lot to me that my posts and blog are helpful or meaningful to you in any way, and I promise that I have no plans to take it down! I hope it stays up forever.Angela D. Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11669645527339566514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-53166904507428919382022-02-22T17:23:04.189-08:002022-02-22T17:23:04.189-08:00Great points as always on the subtler aspects and ...Great points as always on the subtler aspects and undertones to Solas's romance. And of course many people's reactions and mileages will vary on my take that Solas is at least a little bit into dominance (and yeah, I do find that sexy in him). <br /><br />But -- I also think there's plenty of room for interpreting his relationship without that element at all -- as you mention, he only references it in one specific dialogue (with a mage). So of course it's very easy to imagine that he is equally NOT into that as well. It's basically in the eye of the beholder in the best way.<br /><br />The biggest irony is that in the three years since I posted this, I have come to realize that I am demisexual, and I do see that possibility very strongly in Solas, especially in retrospect.Angela D. Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11669645527339566514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-52575486228338011462022-02-01T03:25:45.058-08:002022-02-01T03:25:45.058-08:00I'm so glad these threads are still kinda acti...I'm so glad these threads are still kinda active-ish this many years later so I don't feel bad being late to the party. I only just discovered this blog in one of my Solavellan flare-ups. I swear it's like a chronic disease that you can live with for months and months and then suddenly the feels hit you and there's this irresistible urge to go on a therapeutic fandom rampage. And in such a state this blog is giving me life.<br />Anyway, I think an important thing to keep in mind with all of these "but he has this line of dialogue" points is that he doesn't always say those lines. When, as you point out, the word of god themselves basically said that everyone's shade of "did they or didn't they" can have its own parallel universe, single lines of dialogue aren't really meant to go any further than specific playthroughs. Though I agree that if you do have the grim and fatalistic line, it's odd to then NOT think they slept together.<br />In my understanding, the "did they or didn't they" question comes down to two things. First, the player's idea of Solas's morality, which as I know from my part, is also very much influenced by my own. Strictly from the "lying about his identity and agenda" standpoint, I just can't see bedding her as any worse than carrying on with a romantic relationship as emotionally deep and intimate as what the Solavellan romance feels like. Solas drawing the line at sex when he's already letting her give him her heart just feels arbitrary. (This is of course different if he's drawing that boundary for other reasons such as being demi/ace, which I can easily see being the case, even though he does register as sexual to me, just as for Angela.)<br />The second thing is how far everyone's Lavellans are willing to trust Solas, given that he does share "so little personal history" as Viv put it. Even if Lavellan doesn't think there's anything shady going on (which mine doesn't), technically she still doesn't know that much about him, at least as far as biographical facts. She does spend more than a year in his company, he talks truthfully about his feelings and opinions (even if he does carefully pick the topics), and he supports Lavellan and some companions emotionally. This can certainly be enough for some Lavellans to go all the way in emotional AND/OR physical intimacy, which on the physical side means having sex (again, unless sexuality considerations apply). My own Lavellan does get there eventually, though very slowly - partly also because of headcanon backstory stuff. And thus in my canon world, they do have sex and not even just once, but the sex comes months after the "Ar lath ma, vhenan" scene. (In my timeline there's half a year between that scene and the breakup, so there's still a period of development, then he dumps her just as she's getting truly comfortable.)<br /><br />Putting aside my not being able to really understand how "taking her" into bed is worse than "taking her" emotionally, I kinda still see, intellectually, how some would conclude Solas drew the line at sex, as implied by one interpretation of the "would not lay with you under false pretenses" line.<br />Personally, I lean toward an "I would not seduce you for my agenda" type of interpretation, and think that he would be open to being physical if she was. To me it even adds an extra bit of agency to her. If he can't give her the full truth he will at least offer her every bit of the self that he is to her.<br /><br />Ultimately, it's up to both of them in the world, (as it should be), which in meta-world means it's up to both the player (their idea of how Solas stands on sex vs. emotional vulnerability in the face of duplicity, and potentially his sexuality), as well as the character (Lavellan's ability and willingness to trust him given missing and available information).TValyriannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-51164635462769406832021-06-22T02:24:23.740-07:002021-06-22T02:24:23.740-07:00I also believe he and Lavellan do not have sex... ...I also believe he and Lavellan do not have sex... But what if, right? I mean. I am currently writing a series of books, MGIT, who landed in freaking Arlathan. Solas was one of her teachers, with Mythal, and even Andruil for hunting and bow usage. <br />Before Andruil went mad, Mythal was murdered and Solas raised the veil. They fell in love, but neither told the other. We're talking MAJOR SLOW BURN. She has moved on. ISH, but, they will in the fic eventually have sex. She was raised as an Evanuris, she is one of them, but tried to save Mythal, helped Solas in his rebellion. And with her luck, she becomes Inky. Or will. We are in Kirkwall right now chillin with the Hawke family. But yes, he would not lay with someone who didn't know who he really was.<br />What SUCKS is Patrick Weeks actually had said that the scene in Crestwood, where he rips both of their hears out? He was going to tell her who he was, he was going to lay it all out so that he and she could be together. And then he chickened the fuck out. That strong in control man, afraid she would hate him, chickened out. But made her hurt.Krishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01572329477764619625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-15594329708402267122021-04-05T18:06:36.843-07:002021-04-05T18:06:36.843-07:00Angela, I just love all your posts! Seriously, I h...Angela, I just love all your posts! Seriously, I have been absorbing in each one since I finished DAI, which was actually very recent! You write so well and you give such a richness and depth to content that it already pretty great, but you always see more. I can’t wait to do another play through with all your wisdom now guiding me.<br /><br />I’ve read that Weekes confirmed the whole “did they or didn’t they” is supposed to be up to the player. So I guess it really is either/or. I personally have a hard time getting behind the idea that they didn’t sleep together only because of the dialogue where Lavellan asks something about him trying to get her into bed and Solas says “I am grim and fatalistic. Getting you into bed is just an enjoyable side benefit.” If they hadn’t actually slept together that would be such a strange thing to say, even if meant in a flirtatious and playful way. I view that as a pretty bold thing to say to someone you’ve only ever kissed. Also he doesn’t say “...getting you into bed WOULD be an enjoyable side benefit” he says “...getting into bed IS JUST an enjoyable side benefit.” as if it’s a perk he’s experienced before with Levellan. <br /><br />Anyways thanks again for being such a badass with all your amazing posts. One of my favorite historians is Heather Cox Richardson and I read her political posts every morning. You’re like my Heather Cox Richardson of DA.Solastminutenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-79354958350194976552020-02-29T01:34:23.813-08:002020-02-29T01:34:23.813-08:00I think all the the subjective interpretation of L...I think all the the subjective interpretation of Lavellan’s facial is due to the wide range of BioWare character creator. Just one tweak to lip thicknesss here, one to jawline here and brow height/ shape, and you have a vastly different face. Maybe even your inquisitors natural resting face looks to be a particular emotion potentially. By this is mean most of the time running around skyhold and in non cutscene dialogues my inquisitors neutral resting face looked a little stern, slightly hardened emotionally by the way her eyes and eyebrows were I’m not sure if I’m getting the image across but hopefully yes. And this same stern eleven inquisitor , when she had her balcony scene in her quarters with Solas and he walked away ending the scene, somehow the facial expression on my inquisitors face changed from stern and hard/ slightly cold, to softened and slightly concerned expression her lips parting and her eyebrows drawn together. I suspect the unique way each of us solasmancers designs our eleven inquisitors affects the facial animations we see in scene which adds so much flavour and depth to the head cannon omg thank you BioWare (not sure if I can stand waiting just might die of impatience regarding RotDW -Dread Wolf-). thank you so much btw for making this website it’s been such a treasure to me realizing there is nothing for me to be ashamed of by being an adult woman’s and extremely passionate about fictional worlds such as dragon age and the Witcher. All your analysis of ironbull and solas are an absolute delight to read as it reaffirms thoughts I had myself, expands on areas I couldn’t quite pin down and presents entirely original new ideas and perspectives that I could not hope to come up with myself! I’m sorry for rambling on or if what I’m about to say is overly personal but dragon age franchise and inquisition specifically have been a huge help for recovery from my ptsd. That’s why I get so emotional personally about it aside from the fact it is damn well written to pull at the heart strings and something for everyone. I just have one more thought to add, I recall, reading one of the romance dedicated pages that stated iron bull and solas are the most unexpected and complex stand out relationships from the game, all are great and have substance but you mentioned these two as particularly different and outstanding. I completely agree with this assessment and grading but would like to suggest an addition, a contender for 3rd most unique and memorable romance experience, and that would be sera’s. I haven’t done the romance personally but have watched videos on videos and I can really say there is lots of hidden depth there, simply fantastic to feel the shock as you realize love was a able to help Sera grow out of her shell and be comfortable with her self, more so even than that she learned to love herself and be damn proud, (sera’s personal loyalty quest “pride cookies” pun totally intended!) she learned to express love, while Dorians struggle with sexuality is no less emotional and vulnerable I believe sera’s learning to love anything and anyone herself included for the 1st time is extremely tender, something naive yet mature that is both fitting her childish impish like nature as well contradicting her innate stubbornness to discuss or reason on anything.<br /><br /><br />Please never stop writing on this site and never take it down :) I’ll always be happy to read,<br /><br /><br />P.s. best of lucky with your solas fanfic truly looking forward to reading more!Faelys-Lavellanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11439140188809945755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-51323394797976986642019-03-22T00:01:10.738-07:002019-03-22T00:01:10.738-07:00<3 <3 <3 <3 <3<3 <3 <3 <3 <3Calwynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01891793517011790308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-64440856472722834282019-03-21T16:22:49.176-07:002019-03-21T16:22:49.176-07:00According to the DA Wiki, the balcony scene needs:...According to the DA Wiki, the balcony scene needs:<br /><br />- You have to have arrived at Skyhold.<br />- You have to have high approval with him - This threshold is unknown, but presumably it's at least +35, which is what you need to access all the "Tell me about yourself" dialogue options.<br />- You have to have exhausted all the "Tell me about yourself" dialogue options, because that unlocks All New, Faded For Her.<br />- You to have completed the return to Haven / fade kiss scene with him.<br />- You have to have completed All New, Faded For Her.<br /><br />Source: https://dragonage.fandom.com/wiki/Solas/Approval<br /><br />ladyiolanthehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13805659465078685600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-78792353865821716482019-03-21T15:55:32.952-07:002019-03-21T15:55:32.952-07:00Hi Angela!
Thank you for changing your post a lit...Hi Angela!<br /><br />Thank you for changing your post a little to acknowledge that demisexuality or asexuality are indeed possible options for Solas based on his behaviour in-game. I wasn't expecting you to change anything in your post when I wrote my reply, but I appreciate that you took the time to do that. <3 And like I said at the very beginning of my reply, everybody's interpretation is as real as anybody else's. A lot of people have difficulty wrapping their heads around demisexuality and asexuality, so you're not alone there. I myself didn't really understand what was "wrong" with me until the past few years. (Answer: nothing is wrong with me! I just experience life a little differently.)<br /><br />Regarding Lavellan's expression as he leaves her - I don't really see anything there, either positive or negative. She looks quite neutral to me. So that probably explains how you can see her as dreamy and thoughtful while I can see her as confused and maybe a little frustrated.<br /><br />Since there was no sex scene, I think Solas' behaviour in the bedroom us up for each and every one of us to decide! Personally, I do not find dominance/submission to be sexy, but I understand that a lot of other people do, and that's okay! I should note that I played as a rogue; Solas commented on my Lavellan's grace, so there was no underlying question of who was dominating who in my play-through. And /for me/, that was a much more comfortable relationship than a dominant/submissive one would be. :)ladyiolanthehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13805659465078685600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-52563296700424410942019-03-20T15:42:53.099-07:002019-03-20T15:42:53.099-07:00Ladyiolanthe,
Thank you so much for the eloquent ...Ladyiolanthe,<br /><br />Thank you so much for the eloquent replies! The system is being cranky -- this was the only comment it would let me reply to! (Grr!)<br /><br />First off, thank you for correcting me. You are absolutely right that I am too hasty in assuming the romance cannot be demisexual or asexual. I will be correcting my post language accordingly.<br /><br />I would say, to me, that to *me* he doesn't ping that way because of the way the scenes are played. But that's just my take. He seems really sexual to me, and the sexual aspect seems to be hardest for him to refuse. I also get this impression from his flirtations (and, of course, his teasing and open reference to BDSM). <br /><br />However, I don't know enough about any of those things to know what is appropriate or typical, or whether the two can overlap, etc. Please forgive any ignorance I demonstrate.<br /><br />Meanwhile: I like your notation that they meet "in the middle" on the balcony. I agree with that and think it's interesting and a lovely grace note. And I absolutely love the impact of the Inquisitor realizing later on just who she's been in love with all this time.<br /><br />I also like the fact that she approaches him that way in order to, basically, ask him to take action. She has literally put her arms behind her back; she wants HIM to act.<br /><br />And then he turns away again (and I would argue that he is not only attempting to refuse what he feels, that he may also actually teasing her just a bit here, with what he knows she wants). And so she reaches out again physically, and then he returns to her. Pretty much exactly as in Haven in the Fade Kiss.<br /><br />As far as the last moment... I just don't see anything negative on Lavellan's face on that last panel as he leaves. She appears to me to be serene and thoughtful, pleased with their moment (and most of all with his words) and she makes no additional move after him as he departs. But that's what's so wonderful about attempting to interpret all this, as you point out!<br /><br />Last but not least -- when I talk about his need for control, I don't mean it in a toxic way. I don't think he's trying to control Lavellan's thoughts or actions. I think he's -- to be blunt -- into control in the bedroom and prefers a dominant/submissive relationship. And to me that's very in-character and actually jibes for me with his constant efforts to control the scenarios around him.<br /><br />Again, I don't mean it in an abusive or unsettling way or that it removes any of Lavellan's agency. I just think there's an aspect to Solas that is drawn to things that require both confidence and exquisite control. And that includes, ahem, his bedroom preferences.<br /><br />However!<br /><br />As always, you bring up wonderful points, and I can of course be so, so wrong here. I so appreciated the conversation, and will look forward to your thoughts, as always!<br />Angela D. Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11669645527339566514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-5882528844681439982019-03-20T15:27:22.850-07:002019-03-20T15:27:22.850-07:00Calwyne, that is seriously one of the loveliest co...Calwyne, that is seriously one of the loveliest compliments I have ever gotten in my life. You seriously just made my entire week. Thank you so much for that!Angela D. Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11669645527339566514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-2256803949915407732019-03-20T15:26:29.757-07:002019-03-20T15:26:29.757-07:00Thanks so much, Hugseverycat!
I really do know wh...Thanks so much, Hugseverycat!<br /><br />I really do know what you mean. I adore Solas's romance, but in real life? What he puts her through? OH HELL NO. At least... I hope not... (I might be weak, now that I think about it... DAMMIT SOLAS.) :D <br /><br />But seriously, I'm so glad you enjoy the posts, and I so appreciate your taking time to read and comment!Angela D. Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11669645527339566514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-20911784559097714882019-03-20T02:35:40.054-07:002019-03-20T02:35:40.054-07:00I absolutely read a lot of your posts (and love th...I absolutely read a lot of your posts (and love them). I may or may not be in the habit of re-reading lines of yours over and over because I love them so much :PCalwynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01891793517011790308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-49705789559681505312019-03-19T09:35:31.213-07:002019-03-19T09:35:31.213-07:00P.S. I know a lot of fans swoon over Solas' th...P.S. I know a lot of fans swoon over Solas' thighs, but we can we talk about the lines of his shoulders and back in that screenshot you took of them kissing where his back's to us? *SWOON*ladyiolanthehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13805659465078685600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-35829049871532014382019-03-19T09:16:18.268-07:002019-03-19T09:16:18.268-07:00Thank you, Calwyne! This was the point reader Mia ...Thank you, Calwyne! This was the point reader Mia Monza pointed out. And I cursed myself for omitting it, as it's been a major element of my posts on Solas's romance since the first. I had made notes on it and literally forgotten to include it here.<br /><br />So I absolutely agree. I think it's absolutely about his confronting "oh shit, they are real" (romanced or not). 100%.<br /><br />DAMMIT.<br /><br />And thank you so much for reading and commenting! I so look forward to your feedback and ideas -- thank you for sharing them!Angela D. Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11669645527339566514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-56420425042188459572019-03-19T08:35:01.778-07:002019-03-19T08:35:01.778-07:00The presence of these two apology options, combine...The presence of these two apology options, combined with the fact that Lavellan is the person who instigates that first kiss are a couple aspects of the game that helped me come to the conclusion that Solas may be demi. (Which I loved! Representation, yay!)<br /><br />(I should add that in the Fade Haven scene, he backs away from her when she advances on him after explaining that “I felt the whole world change” is a figure of speech, then seems a bit oblivious that she’s about to kiss him. The flirts leading up to this scene are mostly harmless fun and you have similar options to flirt with Cassandra, Vivienne, and Dorian even though those are companions with whom a female Lavellan can never have a romance.)<br /><br />Onwards! The next thing I interpreted differently is the kiss on the balcony. I always found her stepping into Solas’ space to be very powerful. He, it needs to be noted, takes a couple of steps toward her, as well. (This is a marked contrast to their first kiss in Haven, where, as mentioned above, he actually backs away from her a few steps before she closes in for the kiss.) Here on the balcony, they meet each other in the middle. To me, they are meeting each other as equals. Which, of course, once you find out he’s the Dread Wolf, is pretty darn amazing. (I headcanon my post-Trespasser Lavellan wrestles with the idea that a person she grew up *revering as one of the Creators* loves her. She is no one special – how did that HAPPEN?!) But in the moment, she is just feeling confident and that she and Solas are a match. Partners.<br /><br />Then he remembers who he is and what he needs to do, and he turns away from her again. I agree 100% with you that he is torn between duty and desire throughout the whole romance.<br /><br />The last thing I interpret differently is Lavellan’s expression as Solas is walking away after their kiss. She doesn’t strike me as dreamy and thoughtful. She looks confused and maybe a little bit frustrated! ;) I can practically hear her thoughts “I gave him time to think about things, he clearly has decided he wants to be with me, so WHY DOES HE KEEP WALKING AWAY?!” (In my headcanon, she figures he has had a very bad relationship in the past and that’s what keeps getting in the way. Then, of course, she finds out the truth in Trespasser.)<br /><br />While I agree with you that Solas needs to be in control, I don’t get the sense that he is trying to exert any control over her. (Indeed, given his love for freedom, freedom of thought, free will, etc. I can’t really see him as ever wanting to control her.) It’s all directed at himself.ladyiolanthehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13805659465078685600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-35798856226753107172019-03-19T08:21:06.439-07:002019-03-19T08:21:06.439-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.ladyiolanthehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13805659465078685600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-53709171212416205602019-03-19T08:20:19.531-07:002019-03-19T08:20:19.531-07:00Let's try this again now that it's morning...Let's try this again now that it's morning...<br /><br />So like I mentioned, I had crafted a reply about some slightly different interpretations I have for some of the stuff you discuss in this post. I think it's pretty cool that different people can see the same stuff in different ways (rather like the whole "I saw the Battle of Ostagar..." conversation after which Solas explains that both perspectives he saw in the Fade are "real". :D )<br /><br />So, firstly... You wrote as one of your reasons for why you feel they didn't have sex "And, to me, this doesn't ping as Solas being ace (while Josie does)—to me he's incredibly sensual and sexual based on his behaviors, so the lack is noteworthy to me." Full disclosure: I am demisexual with strong ace tendencies. I interpreted the relationship between Solas and Lavellan as a demisexual one. IE, Solas has to have a very deep emotional bond with a person as a prerequisite to developing any sexual desire for them. But once he's arrived there, he can be as passionate and sensual as any sexual person. Clearly, he gets there with Lavellan, but if he's like me, he might be fine with kissing and cuddling but be sex-averse. <br /><br />Another interpretation is that he is sexual while Lavellan is not, and in this interpretation, the fact that there is no sex scene can be explained by the relationship between them being a very mature and consenting one. If Lavellan's demi or ace, then Solas is respecting her need/desire to not be physically intimate.<br />I do find their relationship to be very mature and consenting. Indeed, during the morning conversation after their very first kiss in Fade Haven, two out of three dialogue options for Lavellan have her being apologetic to him for pushing him too hard.<br /><br />INQUISITOR: Solas, I thought you were interested. If I misread you, I apologize.<br />SOLAS: No, you have no need to apologize… I… it has been a long time, and things have always been… easier for me in the Fade.<br /><br />and<br /><br />INQUISITOR: You did kiss me back. If I’m pressuring you-<br />SOLAS: No, you’re not. I am perhaps pressuring myself. It has been a long time, and things have always been easier for me in the Fade.<br /><br />(The third option is, of course, the teasing fade tongue dialogue, which seems to be a favourite among Solavellan fans.) <br />ladyiolanthehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13805659465078685600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-26586778549973014002019-03-19T05:47:44.054-07:002019-03-19T05:47:44.054-07:00Thank YOU for reading! I'm so glad you enjoy t...Thank YOU for reading! I'm so glad you enjoy the posts. I have so much fun writing them.Angela D. Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11669645527339566514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8089234714060648358.post-50302787681008238692019-03-18T20:18:28.471-07:002019-03-18T20:18:28.471-07:00Lovely read, so beautifully put! I agree with all ...Lovely read, so beautifully put! I agree with all of this, save that in the balcony scene he is looking for connection due to the orb, some change... It's worth noting that he makes the same comment there - romance or no! I see it much more as him confronting head on the possibility that everyone in this world could be real. I see it as him wondering if she is real only because of something his orb had done - or if she was real all along, meaning everyone else must be too. Calwynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01891793517011790308noreply@blogger.com